Jade Priscilla

Tuesday, 21 July 2015

Seriously awkward: Happy birthday sweet sixteen

Happy birthday sweet sixteen, sixteen candles, have a birthday wish
Exams are over, grades no concern as you skip on out with your shirt untucked
Happy Birthday sweet sixteen
Awkward cvs to get a job
No replies, you feel disheartened, cheer yourself up with a barcardi breezer
No drinking until your 18 but your 16 and breaking the rules

You smoke because he says so, flirt with boys because she says so
Curfews ignored, it's just not fair, your the only one in by 8
You plot, you lie, you know it's not right but buying a fake id is just fun right?

Noone understands, you feel so alone
So many conflicts going through your head: You want to be slim, you wish you could sing, you want to not be so seriously awkward.

Dear sweet sixteen
Sixteen is tough, you feel misunderstood and confused wondering when oh when this awkward stage will pass.........

Seriously awkward audio recording
The Children's society seriously awkward campaign is calling on the government  to change the law to protect 16 and 17 year olds from abuse and negelect

  • The majority of parents feel life is harder today for teenagers than when they were young.
  • One in three 16 and 17 year olds has faced sleepless nights due to worry in the last year.
  • One in three 16 and 17 year olds frequently feel anxious and a quarter frequently feel sad.
  • One in ten 16 and 17 year olds admit they feel pressure to do things that could leave them at risk such as taking drugs, drinking alcohol or spending time with people they don’t feel comfortable with.
  • 70% of this age group do not describes themselves as ‘streetwise’
  • Two thirds of 16 and 17 year olds feel judged just for being a teenager.
  • The Children’s Society estimate that half a million 16 and 17 year olds in the UK face particular risk of harm because they are already dealing with issues such as poverty, poor health or a lack of supportive relationships.
  • A teenager has to be under 16 to be protected by laws on child cruelty and neglect.
  • Three quarters of parents believe 16 and 17 year olds are still children and should be protected from harm – but the law is dangerously inconsistent in this area.

At 16,I (like many teenagers today)  put on a HUGE front that I was capable of doing things all on my own and that I was streetwise and savvy because I caught the bus on my own every morning. When in reality, I still needed to be looked after and be made to to feel safe and protected, which is why I'm proud to be a Campaign ambassador for The Children's Society, tackling issues very close to my heart.


*Awkward disclamer: Barcardi Breezer as a company and brand does not encourage underage drinking

Sunday, 28 June 2015

Diary of a fussy eater

The diary of a fussy eater from 6 months onwards as recalled by her not so fussy mumma

6 months old

My baby can eat, the possibilities are endless! I can peel a potato, boil a potato, blitz it in a fancy blender thingy then pour my pureed potatoes into ice cube moulds......or maybe I'll just get a jar. 

I'm excited.

Baby's in her highchair, wearing a bib and a gummy smile. I wonder if she can sense that something exciting is going to happen.

I scoop a spoonful of food on to the spoon and move it towards Lei's pursed lips. 

" Ummmm, yummy" I coax.

Lei blows a raspberry. False start. I'll try again.

Raspberries blown: 2 Food eaten: 0

Aeroplane time. 

I fly the spoon through the air, Lei's very special aircraft courtesy of: please eat for mummy airlines.

She smiles

I hold my breath

Raspberries 3

Perhaps a train would work...chugger chugger chugger into the tunnnel

Raspberries 4

I pretend to eat- fail

Nanny pretends to eat- Fail

I feel like we're re-creating Goldilocks and the three bears and I'm slowly losing the will,

and considering no food is being digested, I have a bubba with a dirty bib, food round her mouth and sticky hands from clutching at the choo choo spoon. 

I imitate Lei and blow my own raspberry.

Lei laughs, this is funny.

A good old game of I'm not interested in solids.

I set the aeroplane/train spoon down, I will try again later.

Lei and her raspberries: 4 +++++++

Mummy and her baby food: 0

Wednesday, 24 June 2015

A parent's guilt

I graduated from university and was thrust into the after haze of what now? I really had no idea what I was going to do and what path I should be taking. On one hand, I enjoyed being at home with little one, as she transitioned from nursery through to year one but then on the other, I longed to be at work, earning a living and creating a better future for my family.

I began full time work when my daughter turned five and I've been enjoying my role, making new friends and gaining lifelong skills, so why after wanting so badly to be in full time employment do I and so many other working parents feel such guilt?

The guilt of missing out

I went from being able to attend every assembly, sports day, Christmas play and bake sale with my only worry being that I had enough 20p coins to buy a cupcake and a coffee. Now, I have to hope that I have that day off, or I'm lucky enough to get the dates to events in advance to book it off. If not, I wave Lei off with kisses and promises of being good and having a great time, while I have a little talk to myself that she's going to be fine and fine she always is! She often can't wait to tell me about her day and show me the crafts she made and cakes she brought.

Tip:  If your child is at an afterschool club, nursery or childminder and is able to relay the day's
activity to you, then listen and ask questions, perhaps make it into a games where 
the child can create a picture story to recall the day’s events.  If the child is younger, buying a special
book to give to your childminder or nursery to recall key events important to you such as what they ate at meal times or what activity they did that day can help you feel  in the loop whilst at work.

The guilt of growing up

I feel that with every blink I take, my baby has gone from baby to toddler to child with an incredible imagination and knack to create stories with ease whilst able to teach me how to log on to her maths and phonics games and challenge me to beat her highest score on a bananas in pyjamas game. Gone are the ill pronounced words and instead a child who understands the value of  perseverance and determination.

Tip: Keep a picture or written diary of the funny or serious anecdotes your child says.
This can be a sweet memento read on your lunch break or after a particularly tiring day

The guilt of quality time

A day off with Lei is often spent having ' mummy, baby' days as we call it, where we will either venture out or have a movie day at home. Those times are the best and we both enjoy them, although sometimes after finishing my second long shift in a row, I want to crawl under my duvet and sleep into the next year. Of course that can't be done, so instead I get on with the day and go to bed at bedtime....7:00pm!

Tip: This is a time to do whatever you and your child enjoy, a time to shake off any feeling of guilt
and just have fun.  

I stand with the millions of mothers and fathers who have to juggle employment whilst fretting about childcare, school runs and the friday night grocery shop. 
  • We are the parents booking doctors’ appointments on our lunch break and cancelling playdates.
  • We are the parents who wake up at 5 am and go to sleep at 1 am ensuring that book bags are packed, lunch boxes filled and uniforms ironed- preparation is key when doing the childcare to work route in the mornings.
  • We are the parents who do it all for our children.

How do you juggle family life whilst working?


Sunday, 21 June 2015

Father's day

 Father’s day

A day spent bestowing gifts of ‘best dad’ mugs and key rings installed with pictures of a grinning son, daughter or grandchild.

Hand-made or shop brought cards scribbled with writing that professes love, adoration and praise
Father’s day

A day that many will feel sad

Sad, sad for the father who no longer wears his favourite brown suede shoes or dances embarrassingly at weddings and parties

Sad, sad for the father who never got to see your first steps, first words, the many firsts from childhood to adulthood simply because he didn’t want to be a father in the first place

Father’s day

A day that many will feel happy

Happy, happy for the fathers who taught them to ride their bicycles without stabilisers and kissed their knees when they fell over

Happy, happy for the fathers who wanted to be a part of their lives, either through adoption, fostering, marriage, biological or another                         

On this day I wish a Happy Father’s day to:

The dads who are not biologically related to their children
The dads who are no longer living
The dads who are nearby or faraway
The dads who are single and the dads who are not
The mothers who are also fathers and do so ever so effortlessly

Happy Father’s day

Tuesday, 8 April 2014

A Book Review: Just What Kind of Mother Are You? Paula Daly


Your friend's child is missing. It's your fault.

No family is perfect.

A husband, three children and a full-time job, so many plates to keep spinning.

No wonder you forgot you were supposed to be looking after your friend's daughter.

But no one has seen her since yesterday.

And she's not the first to go missing from your small town.

So who's hiding something?

***Contains spoilers

I read this book within the space of 5 days. I havn't read in a while and whilst visiting my local supermarket, I stumbled upon this book amongst the chicklits and James Argent's autobiography.

The title caught my eye, whilst the blurb had my attention. As a mother I know how easy it is to get  pre occupied in a busy routine and that one blip can throw everything out of sync. Which is how I could understand how the main protagonist Lisa, might have forgotten that her friend's daughter was meant to be staying with her.Throughout the novel Daly paints a good picture of 'working mum' life, the interactions with her children and husband were all believable and so very realistic.

From the beginning, I was amazed at how Paula Daly knows how to transport reality into words, into fiction. Long after I had put the book to the side, I would mull the events of the storyline over, and at one point I thought I had watched it on television, which is a testimony to how good the narrative is throughout the story.

The characters are believable and relatable, I think every one knows a Lisa, or Kate although I found Joe to be a bit of a wet blanket. His over use of the word, 'baby' every time he spoke to Lisa, started to jar for me, especially when he is asking her why she cheated. I would have preferred for him to have a bit more backbone.

The plot progresses swiftly and is not hard to get stuck into at all. Daly portrays the narrative from the point of views of Lisa, the detective Joanne and  with little snippets from the suspect. I found certain parts hard to grasp in terms of content, and I think Paula Daly is very brave for tackling the issues that she has within this story. Although, it seems like more than one issue was brought up, each of them with the potential to carry its own plot.

After the intense build up of finding Lucinda and then for her to be found putting up a Christmas tree in a cottage was a bit of an anticlimax for me. I would have preferred if the police found her, not Lisa who is always in the right place at the right time and definitely not playing happy families! Even how they found and captured the suspect was a bit disappointing.

Is the story believable?:::: It is, I understand the being a busy parent, I didn't however get, why Kate wouldn't have phoned to see how her daughter was, if she knew she was not coming home for the night. No one questioned it, not even her husband?

Recommend?:::: I would, just so I could discuss it with someone else. It is a page turner, and will have you guessing and eliminating suspects alongside the detective.

More by the author?::: I will be reading her other work, as I think she is a talented writer.

Motion picture?::: Not quite, but it would make a good tv drama.

Ratings: 4/5


Thursday, 28 November 2013

Book Review: The Lost Daughter-Diane Chamberlain


 An unsolved murder. A missing child. A lifetime of deception. In 1977, pregnant Genevieve Russell disappeared. Twenty years later, her remains are discovered and Timothy Gleason is charged with murder. But there is no sign of the unborn child. CeeCee Wilkes knows how Genevieve Russell died, because she was there. And she also knows what happened to the missing infant, because two decades ago she made the devastating choice to raise the baby as her own. Now Timothy Gleason is facing the death penalty, and she has another choice to make. Tell the truth and destroy her family. Or let an innocent man die to protect a lifetime of lies...

 The Lost daughter is a pager turner...

I read this novel in three days, something I haven't done with any book since my teenage years.  I definitely recommend The Lost daughter  if you are looking to get lost in a good book, evoke emotions and question your own belief in what's right and wrong.

I downloaded this book onto my tablet as it was on sale at the time. (It is currently available on kindle for £1.19 and  Paperback for £4.52*) .At first, I thought it was going to be too lovey-dovey for my liking as Chamberlain first introduces us to CeeCee and her first crush Tim, however, I was wrong and I not only grew attached to the characters but actually missed them once I'd read the final chapter.

The storyline is fascinating and in a world now where 'catfish' are ever present it is completely believable and written in a way that I felt myself cheering on CeeCee and wanting her to be safe. The book touches on two topics, one being having to live a new life under a different name and the second being capital punishment. Alot of research must have been poured into these concepts prior to it even being written and Diane Chamberlain has certainly not skimped out on doing so.

The only bit I questioned was whether or not a midwife is able to tell you have not had a child before. In the book, CeeCee doesn't want her husband to attend any of her internal examination appointments for fear of him finding out that Cory is not her biological daughter. Now, in America it might be different and I only have one child myself so unless there is some sort of examination that happens that I am not aware of then it would be fascinating to find out more.

The story is told through the eyes of CeeCee and then later switches to that of Cory's. Although it was interesting to read the daughter's point of view, I could have done without it and not missed it all too much.CeeCee was extremely fortunate that her sentence was so short, I was pleased with this although realistically would it have been so lineant? I doubt it, but for the purpose of a happy ending it works well.

This book is one that can be discussed and debated and I am eager to get my mum to read it so we can do just that. If anyone has read the Lost Daughter, perhapes you could share your views.

Book Score 8/10

Happy  Reading

*Prices correct on 28/11/2013 at Amazon.co.uk and are subject to change
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